Does anyone remember this 12 year old little WHITE girl who was murdered by two BLACK kids? She was lured to one house so they could steal her bike. Her body was stuffed in a trash can by the two boys. No? Don’t remember? Probably never heard of it to begin with? That’s because it was never marked as a hate crime because she was white. The president didn’t make a personal call to her family to apologize for what happened. Celebrities didn’t give a shit. One of the kids got released with only six months served.
Tell me again that this country isn’t fucking biased.
My dream for the 2016 presidential election is not having to choose which human rights I’m feeling like compromising on.
shooting animals who are just wandering around minding their own business and then calling it a ‘sport’ is unjustifiable
Here’s the dirty little secret about this though: there is no such thing as withholding sex because there is no situation in which you owe another human being sex. Ever. Your body is 100% your own and you get to consent or not consent to other people doing things to or with your body for whatever the hell reason you would like. This includes because you’re pissed off at the person, because they did something you didn’t like, because you just don’t fucking feel like it, because you’re tired, because you don’t feel attractive, because you’d rather read a book…any of the above. And not wanting to have sex with someone because you have negative feelings towards them at a given moment is not in fact punishment. It’s actually a very natural human feeling not to want to be physically intimate with someone when you’re annoyed/angry/hurt/sad with them. Oddly enough letting someone be close to your body when you don’t feel emotionally close to them doesn’t always feel great (if that’s your thing then go for it, but for those who don’t like it then there is no fucking reason to apologize).
But the idea that you can pull some sort of power play in a relationship by not giving the other person something which you don’t owe to them in the first place makes no sense. It would be like telling your partner that you’re going to punish them by not baking them chocolate chip cookies every day: sure, maybe they would like those cookies but in no way are you obligated to bake them cookies anyway, so they should probably be just fine getting along without it. The idea that you should feel as if the only way you can express that you’re angry or upset or unhappy in your relationship is by taking ownership over your body in a way that is so basic it should never have been a question is somewhat disgusting. If your partner has you so convinced that you owe them sex, no wonder you feel a little angry or vindictive towards them.
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